tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6380142665455682300.post7160950265938122661..comments2023-05-18T17:09:13.465+01:00Comments on Young Wives' Tale: Mummy or me?Evehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07419457138356078554noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6380142665455682300.post-13426864553914019222009-08-05T22:21:34.471+01:002009-08-05T22:21:34.471+01:00Jenny - It seems it is childless women that are al...Jenny - It seems it is childless women that are always the biggest judge. I feel another post coming on in response too all these comments actually...made me think more :)<br />Thank you for your support!<br /><br />Oh and HH again - Not dwelling. This is something my Therapist continues to tell me, and you are both right. I am happy now and I do enjoy my life, this is what I should focus on. :) Thanks again.Evehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07419457138356078554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6380142665455682300.post-57480645632120836242009-08-05T22:16:58.324+01:002009-08-05T22:16:58.324+01:00HH - Aman on miss all the American stuff....me too...HH - Aman on miss all the American stuff....me too. Especially the driving. I will speak to hubby, the thing is though, I know it's not him, he's always encouraging me to go out and I know he'll always babysit, but I feel guilty for having "me" time or not being with Son. I think it's just a matter of me "diving in" so to speak. Thank you though. Oh, Also! <br />23rd would work for me, maybe this can be a step out the door for me. :)<br /><br />Pam - Thank you. I always feel very alone when it comes to motherhood since my family is in the US and all my friends are bachelorette's who are not even sure how to hold my son. So thank you for showing I am not! What I miss is being able to go to the toilet in a public restroom when I am out on my own with Son! It's very difficult to fit a pram into a bathroom stall you know ;) <br /><br />And what you said about rediscovering, yeah... I'm starting to see that. It's not about getting back who I was, but becoming who I'm going to be.Evehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07419457138356078554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6380142665455682300.post-8989952835969444942009-08-05T22:07:19.611+01:002009-08-05T22:07:19.611+01:00Eve...such a poignant post. I agree with you that ...Eve...such a poignant post. I agree with you that it can be conflicting. We have these beautiful, healthy, happy children but we were in our mid 30s when we had our son, and quite selfish with our fabulous time and life. I appreciated my girlfriends who were VERY honest with me that it is amazing but it is also HARD work and some days, you feel like taking a big vacation. There is a girl in our neighborhood who scoffs at this and made a big deal once about how women should give up everything when they have kids. She will be a horrible role model to her children. <br /><br />Bravo on this honest post.JennyMachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14594526663480442855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6380142665455682300.post-8971759425692069772009-08-05T19:20:11.827+01:002009-08-05T19:20:11.827+01:00I feel like I could have written this post! It...I feel like I could have written this post! It's my opinion that MANY mothers feel this way, but we are afraid to admit it. <br /><br />I have heard people gush after the arrival of their children, "I just don't remember what life was like before this baby came along!!" Well, I can honestly tell you that I most certainly CAN remember what it was like before my boys came along. And I miss it!! Oh, how I miss the freedom to simply think about myself first or to jump out of the car for a pack of gum! But, like you, I wouldn't trade my boys for anything. They are truly a gift. But I will always miss the old me and that life. Once you become a mother, you have to totally rediscover and redefine yourself, don't you?<br /><br />Anyway, again...great post!Pamelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13628080567559721919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6380142665455682300.post-7995595487237490952009-08-05T16:33:23.267+01:002009-08-05T16:33:23.267+01:00I just wanted to say I think your honesty is aweso...I just wanted to say I think your honesty is awesome. I am not a mother but I think a lot of mothers feel the way you do and are afraid to admit it. What do I miss? I miss lovely sunshine, I miss the freedom of having a car and going out wherever whenever (but i am afraid to drive in the UK), I miss proper american pizza and ice cream. But heres the thing, never dwell. It doesn't help. Focus on what makes you happiest instead.<br />p.s. talk to your hubby and tell him how u feel. ask him if he wouldn't mind watching the baby for a while and you can meet up with friends, that doesn't necessarily have to end. Maybe u can have the best of both!Heavenly Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14283933713343453486noreply@blogger.com