Tuesday, 12 January 2010

Random Tuesday Thoughts

Welcome to my Random Tuesday Thoughts! If you don't know what this is (but I bet you do) go check out the very best Un Mom and she'll explain all.

Things that are good times:
  • Hot musk and vanilla scented baths with a cup of maple tea.

  • Finally finding something that distracts your kid for longer than 10 minutes.

  • Finding your groove in your job.

Things that are bad times:

  • Your son finding it hilarious to dump all his lego's into your bath.

  • watching the movie Cars 4-6 times a day.

  • finding out you might be out of a job within 2 months

The good news re: the job front is that it's not because I suck and don't get my work done because I'm too busy on blogger but because the NHS service I work for is being disbanded and they haven't figured out that I don't get my work done because i spend my time blogging. This does mean though that if I can't find a suitable part time job by end of March then I might have to consider...GASP... Full time. Yikes, I know. But hey, it'll only be until I go on my next maternity leave, right?

Right now.. All I want out of life is this. Click the link...check it out... you'll understand.

I'm not in highschool. I'm young, yes. But I'm not in highschool...In fact I'm married with a child and a job and so really I can't work and dedicate my life to a friend. In fact I don't think you're a very good friend if you expect me to do that. I also don't want to talk to you or anyone on the phone 3 times a day. It's not because I don't love you but simply because I don't have that many things to say to you. I also hate repeating myself which adds to this. Also I have lots of friends and I love them all and I want to see them all, so one taking up all my time doesn't float my boat. Also it's TOTALLY cool if we don't speak for weeks at a time because you know what? Good friends don't need too. One of my closets and most trusted friends I speak to once every 3 months and I haven't seen her in 2 years, but I know when I do see her it'll just be like old times. I'd also like to be able to spend a weekend without having plans or seeing anyone. And it should be ok to not invite anyone over because I just want to spend a Sunday at home with my Husband and Son. I shouldn't have to have a reason. I don't need to justify my life.

I'm pretty sure that's all normal stuff too...for adult friendships. Right?
Because we all understand that each other has their own lives as well.
right? ... You'd think.


Viv said...

It has been years since I have had a 'real'adult friendship, because I just don't have that kind of time. It seems like a no brainer to me that friendship should be something that adds to the quality of one's life, and not detract from it. My best friend lives in Germany, my second best friend lives several hours away. We're content to catch up when we can. New friends though, always seem to be a lot of work.

Debbie said...

Yum. What is maple tea? I thought I was a connoisseur of all things tea but that's a new one on me.
Sorry about the job, though.

ModernMom said...

You are totally allowed to hole up with just you and your fam. That is one of the perks of being an adult. You get to play house!