Monday, 23 November 2009

crisis

You may be wondering where I have been. Lack of posts, lack of commenting... Well for one this weekend has been filled with plans that were made months ago, but mostly and unfortunately I have a friend in crisis. BFF in fact.

On Wednesday she was dumped. Being dumped sucks, I'm told. But BFF is prone to depression and has a history of self harm. So since Wednesday I have been on suicide watch. And when she is not with me I have been on the phone talking her out of it. Emotionally I am drained and I think the only reason I managed to stay strong for her is because Husband has been supporting me supporting her. It's been a really long and scary few days.

The good news is that I can already hear in some of the things she says that she wants help and knows it can get better. She has booked herself in to a Suicide Refuge and is finally able to be distracted long enough to laugh. She still sinks into depression, and her most vulnerable times are in the morning and at night. But I have faith, and I know if we can get her through this first two weeks post-breakup she will get through this.

I'm happy to be there for her and do what I have to to help her through this crisis. But this weekend I was glad I had pre-made plans I couldn't cancel because I felt like I needed that break from her so that I could again build up my strength and positiveness to get through the next week with her.

Anyways, apologies for not being around although I am sure you can all understand. I'll do some serious catching up on my blog-roll as soon as I have the time to focus.

Thank you for sticking by me until then.


7 comments:

Heavenly Housewife said...

Your friend is lucky to have someone like you :D

ModernMom said...

Hugs for YOU! I know from experience how difficult ...how emotionally draining it is to care for a friend who NEEDS so much. Be sure to take care of yourself and your relationship with Hubby too. I hope your BFF knows how lucky she is to have you.

Chelle said...

Thinking of you, sweetie. I can't imagine how exhausted you are right now. Your friend is So lucky to have someone like you in her life.

We'll be here when you feel like visiting. Don't worry about us, honey! xo

Miranda said...

Sorry. I have been slacking at going to sights myself. I live in a freaking hotel! But I feel like I have smaller amount of time....
Anyway, I have a friend that went through the same thing. She couldn't afford medicine or to go to the doctor. She use to cut. It's hard. VERY DRAINING. You are a great friend and I am glad she has you.

Brittany at Mommy Words said...

OMG Eve your friend is so lucky to have you and I am keeping you both in my thoughts and prayers. I am gald that she sought help and that you got to get away. A break is needed if you are going to be there for her. Please know that I am here whenever you are here and would never judge for a lack of post or comment. You rock!

Michele said...

So sorry to hear about your friend. I can imagine how draining that is for you.
Glad to hear you have the support you need to keep you strong for her.
Make sure you take care of you in the process, or there will be nothing left to give ;)
Sending ((hugs)) your way!
And hope to see you back soon !

Frugal Vicki said...

Aww, big hugs, no explanations or apologies are necessary. I am sorry you have to go through this, and good for you for staying strong. I think that is AWESOME of your hubby to be there for you.